Dementia care is a great deal of responsibility for the relatives, says Mrs. Ullmann.

Dementia care is a great deal of responsibility for the relatives, says Mrs. Ullmann. They are responsible for the other person's well-being and have to make constant and consequential decisions for him or her, she says.

The medications doses are ubiquitously too high, conclude Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma.

The transition from one institution to another did not work smoothly for Mr. Thoma's father in terms of medication. Instead of relowering the dosage after the transition was completed, he continued to receive the high medication dose, which severely impaired his speech, mobility, and independence. In the home where Mr. Thomas' father now lives, he receives only half the dose, and his condition has improved significantly. Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma conclude that "the dosages are set too high everywhere.

Humor makes it much easier to deal with dementia, and nice moments can be shared, says Mrs. Ullmann. Humor establishes a relationship and closeness.

Mrs. Ullmann recounts an event that made her laugh heartily with Mr. Thomas' father. Humor makes it much easier to deal with the disease since beautiful moments can be experienced together. Humor establishes a relationship and closeness.

Mr. Thoma assists his father and offers companionship, which is the starting point of a new relationship.

The dementia brought Mr. Thoma closer to his father. In step with his father, the two have learned to deal with the disease. Mr. Thoma assists his father and offers companionship, which is the starting point of a new relationship.

Some tips and advice from others are not helpful and are rather energy drains, according to Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma.

Tips and advice from others can miss the needs of the caregiver, as Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma experienced. Some suggestions drain energy rather than providing relief.

Despite an intensive search and careful consideration, the nursing home in which Mr. Thomas' father initially lived was disappointing. It does not happen what it says on paper, says Mrs. Ullmann.

Despite an intensive search and careful consideration, the nursing home in which Mr. Thomas' father first lived was disappointing. It is not what it says on the paper that happens, says Mrs. Ullmann.

The good home place enables Mr. Thoma to spend more time with his father again.

The good home place enables Mr. Thoma to spend more time with his father again.

In the communication with the care institutions, Mr. Thoma experiences himself as powerless, whereupon Mrs. Ullmann responds that one must assert oneself, question what is being done, and accept some discomfort.

In the communication with the care institutions, Mr. Thoma experiences himself as powerless, whereupon Mrs. Ullmann responds that one must assert oneself, question what is being done, and accept some discomfort.

Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma mention orientation aids for the search for a nursing home.

Mrs. Ullmann and Mr. Thoma, at the urging of the social service in the psychiatric ward where Mr. Thomas's father was, spent more than two weeks searching intently for a suitable nursing home. Orientation offered them: the quality of the leadership, their impression of the residents (lethargic or not), the rooms, the quality of the food, the smells, the mood (no stressed caregivers), the size of the beds, and their own intuition.